If take your role as a parent seriously, and therefore want to bring your child up to become law abiding, respectful, compassionate, considerate, caring, adult, who in time will go on to choose for themselves a life partner, eventually becoming parents themselves one day. You need to know that if children are to become worthwhile adults then it is the Parents who need to teach them how to be worthwhile, you need to lead by example, youll need to allow your children space to be themselves and to channel them in the right direction in every area of their growth, you need to love them listen to them, teach them life skills, you must accept that they may be your children by way of you being the parent however that does not mean you own them, far from it, they are their own persons, and will become whatever type of adult because of the way they see you acting with others, how you teach is by example.
Theyre Little Adults.
All children need to learn about boundaries, they need consistency, structure, they need to know that to live in the world one day as an adult they will need to be aware of the unwritten rules there are that will make their transition from child to adult relatively painless if they can accept that every other living breathing person on this planet is equal to themselves in all aspects no matter what, as such is entitled to be treated with the same amount of respect and consideration as they are at all times, teach your child to be well mannered and respect authority, and also that in saying "please & thank you" it shows that they are educated & respectful. As a Parent part of your role is to show/teach your children how to live in the world one day as a responsible adult. This also includes teaching them that sometimes they will encounter the NO word, and why.
You do this by being a responsible adult yourself.
Ensuring they know which way to go, how to make empowered conscious choices, and make decisions that include consideration and thought for others along the way, that whatever they decide you will be supportive and encourage them in all ways, that you will not condemn them if they make a mistake at anytime, you will not place expectations on them, you will not try to live through them. To accept and realise they are people in their own right, to accept they do need to learn how to live in the world and thats where your parenting skills are invaluable to show them teach them, guide them and love them, also listen to them, allow them to have an opinion, teach them that life has certain rules that they will need to be aware of, that they are to be responsible and to accept the consequences of their choices and actions, good or bad at all times. By explaining things to them whenever they get it wrong.
Praise them often, criticise rarely.
As a Parent also respect your child and let them know that you do, if you want to be respected then you need to respect your children, they are people not objects they have the right to be heard to choose and to have opinions and hopefully that in your leading them they will go on to make good choices, and become good parents, and responsible loving partners and adults themselves one day in the future. Therefore you will need to be Positive Parents in order for your children to become Positive Adults, Positive Parenting means you are going to show your children how to go out into the world and enhance it, not make it harder for other humans. you can and will do this by guiding them not ordering or demanding, but by loving and guiding them every step of the way until they choose to go it alone.
By leading by example in every aspect.
Children arent badly behaved ignorant or disrespectful by choice, theyve watched their parents, and the parents have set them bad examples.
Always want better for your children by following the above guidelines as best you can.
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